You’re dealing with a different person now. You learn that sex addiction is not a moral failure, it’s an emotional illness that causes very real physiological changes to the brain, and knows no race, creed, color, gender and respects no religion.Ĭan you remain in a relationship with a sex addict, as long as he’s working a real recovery? Yes, and there can even be gifts. Yes, you can learn a new way trust ability to discern reality from lies again. Can you ever trust your own perceptions, after being so, “easily” duped? You hear that recovery is possible (it is.) You fearfully open the door, with a mixture of hope, and pure panic. Something in your gut tells you, that the person you love is in, “there” somewhere - wherever, “there” is.
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Like a flickering ghost image on a tv screen, you see glimpses of the person you learned to love long ago, still lingering. Yet, sometimes your sex addict has flashes of real remorse. And just when it seems to subside, a song, a picture or even the vision of your sex addict can send you spiraling into a trigger, feeling like you’re back at square one again. The perfectly imperfect life you thought you had, has now become something you’ve only seen in movies or read about in novels.īetrayal trauma smacks, stings, and burns, all at the same time. You start picking up the pieces and you try to make some semblance of this new ugly reality that’s been thrust upon you without your permission. How can I love someone so much, after what they’ve done to me? If this is love – no thank you and goodbye.
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Couldn’t people passing by see I was bleeding and in pieces on the road? Didn’t the driver see me? Why didn’t I see that truck coming? Where is the ambulance, and when is it going to get here?
I’ve often said I felt like I was hit by an 18-wheeler. It remains, broken and cold, looking everywhere for the answers to help us understand, “why”, “how” and “when.” The connection may be broken and injured, but it doesn’t simply vanish. You don’t stop loving someone, even when they’ve hurt you deeply, though you may wish you could. The good news is, recovery for you both, is very possible. When you love someone with a sex addiction life can be chaotic and you experience betrayal trauma. The deception and betrayal felt by spouses, family and friends reaches far, and are difficult to stomach. The natural consequences of sex addiction reach far beyond the addict, and touches everyone that loves them.
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